Are you wondering when to get therapy?
Starting therapy is a significant and often intimidating decision. Typically, this step is taken because you are navigating serious difficulties in your life. This could involve struggles in your relationships—with a partner, parents, or peers—or perhaps you are coping with a recent traumatic event, depression, or anxiety. It’s safe to say that most people seeking […]
How a Humility Scholar Became More Grounded
“Humble” is not a word my colleagues would use to describe me, especially early in my career. Arizona State University, where the author eventually got a lesson in humility In fact, when word got around that I was researching humility, I suspect more than a few choked on their coffee. And even though I have […]
Is Mandated Reporting Racist? What Families Must Know
One in three children in the United States will be reported to child protective services (CPS) before they turn 18. For Black children, that number is nearly one in two. This is not a minor issue. Reporting touches millions of families—disproportionately Black, Brown, Indigenous, immigrant, disabled, and poor. But most families learn how this system […]
Why Behavioral Health Is the Hidden Foundation of Your Relationship
There is a moment, familiar to almost anyone who has loved someone long enough, when you hear yourself say something and think: that wasn’t me. The sharpness in your voice. The sarcasm that landed harder than you intended. You weren’t angry at your partner, not really — you were tired, or flooded with something older […]
When Self-Awareness Turns into Overthinking and How to Stop
“Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can.” ~Unknown For years, I believed Self-awareness was the answer to everything. If I could just understand myself better—my triggers, my patterns, my childhood wounds—I would finally feel calm. Stable. Healed. So I read the books. I journaled every night. I replayed conversations in my head, […]
Who Are You in Conflict?
Have you ever had one of those days (or years) where you chafe against the reality that humanity is a group project? Do you, too, find yourself lamenting the fact there are so many other people around, with their own ideas and ways of doing things? Navigating the post office in one another’s company can […]
Holding Meta and Google Responsible for Addiction Is Wrong
The verdict delivered on March 25, 2026, holding Meta and Google responsible for purposefully designing social media platforms to be addictive, and knowing it can be harmful, is flawed at multiple levels. At its core, this ruling negates personal responsibility for choices. Addiction is not a one-dimensional construct caused by a single factor. The ruling […]
Athletes, Grief, and the Losses No One Talks About
When people think about sports, attention is often driven to athletes’ physical abilities, psychological endurance, and team-based achievements (Sarkar & Fletcher, 2014). A far less visible but equally significant aspect of the sport experience is the presence of grief following death within sport contexts. Despite its inevitability, grief in sport remains under-examined and frequently marginalized, […]
How Trauma Hijacks Your Brain (and How EMDR Can Help)
Over a year ago, I wrote a post about how trauma is “not just in your head”. Here, I follow it up with corroborating evidence. I’ve dedicated most of my life to treating trauma using emotionally-focused and EMDR therapies. And I’ve been ceaselessly obsessed with how and why it works. I also see versions of […]
Why Date Nights Aren’t Enough
The viral social media meme “777 rule for marriage” sounds clean enough to fit on a refrigerator magnet. One date every seven days. One overnight away every seven weeks. One vacation every seven months. It circulates on social media the way most relationship advice does — as a tidy formula for a complicated thing. And […]