Why I Gossiped and What I Now Do Instead

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt I stopped gossiping when life humbled me. I didn’t realize at the time, but what I thought was just innocent girl talk with my friends was really a way to escape my own shame and insecurity. I had this quiet, ongoing sense that I wasn’t […]

Compassion as the Doorway to Forgiveness

“The past is the past!” “Forgive and forget.” “Let bygones be bygones.” Our culture has plenty of platitudes to offer when it comes to forgiving each other’s wrongs. Yet anyone who has lived through betrayal knows the reality is more complex. The process of forgiveness is anything but linear. In my clinical work, I once […]

How to Deal with Shame

Shame is a debilitating feeling that takes over the mind and body. It can make you feel small and incomplete while building walls around you to keep out compassion. Despite wanting to be seen and known, shame causes people to hide behind masks instead.  Healthy shame vs. toxic shame Shame is felt universally across countries […]

How Mindfulness Can Make You a Better Parent

Parenthood can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding experiences in life. It’s a journey that comes with its own set of unique demands, joys, and struggles. But with the help of mindfulness, it’s possible to cultivate greater presence, patience, and compassion in parenting. In this blog post, we’ll explore how mindfulness can make […]