Why I Gossiped and What I Now Do Instead
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt I stopped gossiping when life humbled me. I didn’t realize at the time, but what I thought was just innocent girl talk with my friends was really a way to escape my own shame and insecurity. I had this quiet, ongoing sense that I wasn’t […]
Anxiety Sucks, But It Taught Me These 7 Important Things
“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” ~Soren Kierkegaard Let’s be clear: This isn’t an article about positive thinking. This isn’t an article about how silver linings make everything okay. This isn’t an article about how your perspective on anxiety is all wrong. The kids call those things “toxic positivity.” No toxic positivity here. This is an article […]
From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: How to Come Back to Yourself
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung Where did I want to go out to eat? The question was straightforward, and the answer should have been easy. But as my mind flipped through the options, my thoughts weren’t focused on what I wanted. Instead, I was preoccupied with […]
When Self-Awareness Turns into Overthinking and How to Stop
“Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can.” ~Unknown For years, I believed Self-awareness was the answer to everything. If I could just understand myself better—my triggers, my patterns, my childhood wounds—I would finally feel calm. Stable. Healed. So I read the books. I journaled every night. I replayed conversations in my head, […]
When AI Offers More Wisdom Than Humans
I’ve spent over 20 years as a therapist listening to people’s most intimate struggles, and lately, something keeps me up at night. The conversations people are having with AI are often gentler, more thoughtful, and more compassionate than the ones they’re having with other humans. Let’s Look in the Mirror Right now, humans seem to […]
Five Ways to Tap Into Other People’s Wisdom
Early in my career, I encountered an idea from my mentor, Chris Argyris, that forever changed the way I looked at myself and those around me: More often than not, highly educated, successful people are actually the least likely to learn what they most need to know. Why? The people around us are walking around […]
What Is Wisdom? | Psychology Today
‘Common Wisdom: 8 Scientific Elements of a Meaningful Life’ by Dr. Laura Gabayan Source: Redwood Publishing, LLC/Used with permission What is wisdom? Can it be scientifically defined? For millennia, people have defined wisdom in a variety of ways, yet many think, “I know it when I see it.” Can something so important be left to […]