What We Get Wrong About Fathers Who Don’t Live With…

Popular culture tends to stigmatize fathers who don’t live with their children. From reality television to TikTok shaming, nonresident fathers are often thought to be absent from their children’s lives: “deadbeat dads.” The reality is quite different. As a researcher who studies nonresident fathers, as we call fathers who don’t currently live with their minor […]

Why Leadership Traits Don’t Determine a Successful Leader

If we do a google search for leadership traits we will find endless lists: 10 qualities of a leader; 16 leadership characteristics; 12 necessary leadership traits; 6 characteristics of an effective leader; and endless other links providing somewhere between 3 and 101 crucial traits for leaders. So, what do we do with all of that? […]

Don’t Dread Ahead | Psychology Today

You’ve heard of coping ahead? It is referenced in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). It is often helpful to plan, think through contingencies, and determine ahead of time what will be useful for you in an anticipated difficult situation. Seminal work on coping by Lazarus and Folkman (1984) involves cognitive appraisals of situations and different coping […]

Our Hidden Crisis: Too Many of Us Feel Like We Don’t Matter

I experienced something I’ll never forget in a hospital room ten years ago. My first son had just been born, and the nurse ushered me in to meet him. Restless and crying, he frantically reached out his arms. I lowered my hand, and his tiny fingers gripped my index finger and didn’t let go. His […]

The Truth About Self-Worth: We Don’t Need to Earn It

“Success isn’t about what you do; it’s about who you are. Just existing—waking up, breathing, being present—is enough.” ~Unknown On my third trip to the emergency room, I lay in a hospital bed, ten weeks pregnant and nine kilograms lighter. I had just vomited for the forty-seventh time that day. My body felt empty, but […]