Why Forgiving Ourselves Feels So Hard—and What Helps

When my newborn daughter was two days old, I told my husband to call 911. She refused to eat and seemed lethargic, even for a newborn. But then I wavered, believing it was my postpartum hormones overreacting. Instead, I kept vigil over her all night and brought her to the pediatrician the next morning. He […]

Does Forgiving Really Mean Forgetting?

“Forgive and forget.” This is familiar advice given for anyone who’s been wronged by someone else. It suggests that forgiving will help you forget the harm that’s been done to you, allowing you to heal and move on. But, as new research suggests, forgiveness doesn’t work like that. Instead, when we forgive, our memories are […]