An Obvious Secret to Longevity That Most People Overlook
“Longevity” is the flexible term that can either mean just “lifespan” or both lifespan and healthspan—years spent in good health. The internet is flooded with articles that claim to tell you how to increase your longevity. And why not? Most of us want to live longer, especially if we can still possess the vitality of […]
What’s Your Secret? Asking About Strength, Not Symptoms
When I first meet a patient, I ask a question that often catches them off guard: “What’s your secret?” Specifically, I’ll ask, “Given everything you’ve described—the stress, losses, or hardships that brought you here—what’s your secret to having made it this far?” It’s a disarming question, but a powerful one. It changes the entire frame […]
The Secret Ingredient to a Thriving Relationship: Turning Towards Each Other
As I’m writing this, my wife asks “Do you want to come try this?” referring to a new meal she just made. Do I really need to get up and try this now? I think to myself. After all, I’m writing for The Gottman Institute. Here’s what Drs. John and Julie Gottman say about these […]