Can “Self-Love” Undermine Personal Growth?

It’s hard to avoid mentions of self-love these days. Social media inundates us with jargon about achieving self-love by knowing our attachment styles and “re-parenting ourselves,” while assessing others for red flags so we can cleanse our lives of toxic people. This builds on decades of self-help literature that shifted our focus to self-optimization at […]

The Trouble With Self-Love | Greater Good

Scientists have a problem studying self-love. Research abounds on Self-compassion, self-esteem, self-care, and even unconditional positive self-regard. Scholars have published definitions of these concepts, established scales for measuring them, and explored their practice and impact on people’s well-being. But self-love, on its own, not so much. One of the few scholars who published a definition […]

How to Turn Shame into Self-Love and Emotional Resilience

“The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives.” ~Brené Brown The pain and suffering I experienced as a child, which I kept hidden for over a decade, was the very seed that gave me the strength, resilience, empathy, authenticity, and courage that I possess today—but only because I surrendered […]